We need to talk about the impact of childhood trauma. It’s hard to accept that our parents were, at best, misguided and at worse, not nice. Sharing their genes – when we judge our parents, we judge ourselves. We also feel a huge sense of disloyalty. After all, the world likes people who are kind to puppies and parents. The first I have no issue with, the second not so much.
If your parents failed to show you love or kindness, they failed you. “So stop going on about it, get on with your life!” I hear you cry. Well, it’s not quite that simple. A myriad of elements are at play – not least the nagging doubt that ‘it was my fault they were like they were. If I hadn’t been such a handful, or at least more of what they’d hoped for, they might have been ok!‘
No they wouldn’t, their job was twofold. To nurture and to protect you. There’s no caveat. ‘Only if the child is well behaved, or pretty, or intelligent.’ It isn’t in the contract.
Your parents were the way they were because of THEM, not you.
Why’s this important? Until you accept that unpalatable truth, you cannot own your right to heal. And in turn, you cannot a) Let yourself off the hook (#selfjudgement) and b) build your self worth, self esteem and self love. (stuckness/#selfloathing)
We must stop pandering to the symptoms and start working with the cause. The roller coaster of ‘ok and broken’ is exhausting and debilitating.
The last few days I’ve been inundated with messages and cries for help – I’m working out how to get this key work to you, please bear with me. In the meantime start thinking about the content of this post. No judgement, there’s no right or wrong, simply be curious.
‘We can’t solve a problem from the same level of consciousness as it was created’. #einstein #Consciousness is simply awareness. Expand your #awareness by growing your internal peripheral vision. To do this you will have to slow down and pay attention…. and make the decision to turn your darkness Into light.