Is porn addiction ruining your love life?

hooked-porn-XSmallSadly this week’s client list included three guys between 19 and 43 unable to have sex.

WARNING! Excessive use of porn creates neural pathways that damage your connection with the reality of how sex and women really look and feel.

Porn addiction is a serious problem for many couples too!  Intimacy and sensuality being thrown out of the bedroom window in lieu of high octane role playing and hard core antics.

Many people don’t come to me for help until they can’t perform unless ‘porn’ sex is on offer, they have been desensitised and their relationship dreams are in tatters. This is a widespread (and growing) problem, don’t be shy…… it’s time to take action and turn your life around!

Here’s an extract from the blog post “Porn Addict”, written by Jennifer Umberg:

He thrust into the back of me, his breath heavy with grunting as he pulled my long blonde hair.

I couldn’t decide whether being flipped over into doggie style was for the better or the heinous, since losing any chance of eye contact or affection at least meant I could shut my eyes and face the wall, to force out the world—trying to forget the rawness of my scalp and vagina.

The pain was mine alone to bear. Like so many other times, I tried to remember if there was an exact moment that I had transitioned from lover to experimental play toy.

It was a relationship of all-consuming, selfless love. I had involuntarily but happily let myself become malleable and vulnerable in order to satiate my hunger for this intoxicating relationship. I was “madly and truly.”

I thought he was too.

Intuitive and expressive from years of dance, I had made sensual and slow love-making my personal mantra prior to him. But eager for my boyfriend to understand my fervent adoration, I adapted to his communication style and became pliant to his demands.

Playful for just a hot minute, sex in our relationship perniciously morphed into a mental battlefield. Suggestions of positions and costumes became firm requests to hold my facial expression “this way” and watch for “how she looks in that video… I already sent you the link.” My liberal mind and open heart tried to sail forward amidst the tempest arising within me. But while I clung to the thought of it gets better, I just need to learn, I was oblivious to his deleterious addiction to porn.

Read the rest of the story at Elephant Journal.

 

 

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