As mid-life approaches do you find yourself re-thinking what you thought you already knew?
Are you increasingly wondering ‘Is that all there is?’
You are not alone! The John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation’s Research Network on Successful Midlife Development (“MIDMAC”) estimates that around 23% of people suffer a classic midlife crisis. Defined as ‘personal turmoil and coping challenges in people between the ages of 39 and 50’.
Psychological upheaval in midlife is not only brought on by aging but can also be triggered by extramarital affairs, menopause or the death of parents. The realisation that you dislike your job but not knowing how else to earn an equivalent living can exacerbate matters further. Even children leaving the nest can cause us to wobble and re-evaulate our lives and who we are.
Personal re-invention is exciting, finding out who you are from the core and creating a life that perfectly reflects your vision and values brings another dimension to your world. Touch Hypnotherapy is the latest in a string of discoveries to offer the opportunity to break through old walls of fear and trepidation and re-create the life you really want.
Moving on from a relationship, down-sizing, creating a business with purpose, letting go of what no longer makes you happy - can be a time of enthralling transition. Your subconscious mind can assist you in many ways to fulfil your dreams and your potential but do you know how to access this powerful force? New change work holds the capabilities of bringing you into alignment, providing greater vision, momentum and self confidence as you tread the path with newly-ignited passion and knowing.
It is all too easy to get stuck in our old skin, it doesn’t fit us anymore, nor reflect who we truly are . We know our potential is unrealised and our life is passing by but making the shift can feel daunting.
Perhaps you have tried telling yourself not to be so silly, that you should just buckle down and be grateful for all you do have, so get on with it. In theory this sounds reasonable but what is the voice you are so busy drowning out really trying to say? How much longer are you prepared to let the years go by and refuse to listen to your inner knowing?
Having worked for years to advance your career path, create a secure financial platform and become a balanced adult the time has flown and now you are left with a feeling of ‘what next?’. Maybe you have everything you thought you wanted and still there’s a void? You can’t always put your finger on it but nonetheless you are feeling restless and a little dismayed with the life you have worked so hard to create.
Have you reached a point in your life where you thought you would be settled, sorted and satisfied, only to feel that something is missing? Maybe you know your life purpose and passion but are stuck, entrenched in current patterns and habits, held rooted to the spot and fearful of moving forward. As we make the decision to change it is time to seek clarity and straighten out the confusion, providing a strong foundation to translate our dreams into reality.
Busy schedules mean we rarely have time to invest in increasing the quality of our life. Transformational work has come a long way in the past few years and can affect positive change from the outset. Neuro Science has taught us how to create new neurological pathways, re-program our minds, dispersing fear and limiting beliefs, bringing clarity and a true sense of fulfilment.
Whether you are new to EFT, or a beneficiary, the chances are you would like to know more about how it works. Gary Craig, Founder of EFT, has put together this video which might help answer any questions you may have .
It is worth noting that Gary Craig charges nothing for his web instructional videos as his mission is to speed up and spread the great results EFT can achieve. An inspirational man who has followed his passion, understood his purpose and taught so much to so many!
His website http://www.emofree.com will help you work with EFT on your own.
I personally stumbled on EFT some years ago and eventually got the better of my cynicism, which was running riot at the thought of tapping a few points and witnessing immediate change.
It all seemed to be a bit too good to be true! Once trained, I had intended to slowly integrate EFT with other tried and tested change methods, it soon become one of my most used and consistently effective tools.
In order to improve your outer world and the various aspects of your life
You must first pay attention to your inner world
Improving your inner world by personal expansion
Taking the time to master your mind, care for your body and nourish your soul
No man is free who is not a master of himself.
Anthony Robbins
The average British adult spends 3.8 hours a day watching TV – that’s almost 120 hours per month and one of the highest viewing ratios in Europe!
Whichever end of the scale of averages you fall, imagine for a minute how it would be if you dedicated just one of those daily TV hours to your mental mastery! What do you think the results would be in just ONE MONTH? Is it worth giving up your addiction to Emmerdale for?
Most of us would like to improve areas of our life, to do so we must first pay attention to our internal world and improve it by personal expansion. Investing in time to master mind, body and spirit. We stay stuck until we become a master of our own inner world!
How much time do you set aside for taking an in-depth inventory of your thoughts, behaviours and goals?
OUR ACTIONS CLEARLY DEFINE WHAT’S TRULY IMPORTANT TO US.
BY TAKING STOCK OF THE AREAS OF YOUR LIFE IN WHICH YOU ARE MAKING THE GREATEST INVESTMENTS, IT BECOMES EASY TO SEE HOW WE HAVE CREATED THE LIVES AND CHALLENGES WE ARE WORKING WITH TODAY!
If you spend hours making sure the house is clean and tidy and 20+ hours in-front of the TV each week you are defining your priorities clearly. What is this scenario is likely to manifest in your life? ……. Sure you will have a dust free home, be able to update the neighbours if they have missed the latest episode of Coronation Street or Eastenders but really, what time are you dedicating to feed your soul and passion for life?
‘Manifestation’ – the new buzz word but what does it mean to you?
The word ‘manifestation’ has come into our lives from every direction over the past couple of years. There are best selling books like The Secret still flying off the shelves, with millions of copies sold, in the hope of finding a simple way to create what we want in our life but are we any closer to finding the answer?
The self help book industry is now worth $7bn – are we getting our money’s worth? If you have read book after book and still feel no further forward it’s because you are not taking action. Reading and learning is great but it won’t make a difference unless you apply the content with diligence and even then there are a lot of reasons you could find yourself disappointed.
So, what does manifestation really mean? That you just think about something you want to attract into your life and it’s yours? Well, yes, that’s the headline and the basic premiss! You might be wondering why haven’t the millions of people who are actively manifesting their goals got what they have been dreaming of forever?
The real secret is that your entire being has to believe and behave as though you already have what it is you wish to create. Therefore if you hold doubt, or a limiting belief at some level, that you don’t deseve or can’t be trusted with your object of manifestation – it just can’t happen. Your goals are being actively blocked by these deep seated negative beliefs.
If you are manifesting a healthy bank account but were brought up to believe that “Money is the root of all evil” or “All affluent people will do whatever it takes, including hurting others, to achieve their wealth” (two popular intrinsic beliefs) it is no wonder that you are failing to reap the rewards of your manfiestation labour.
Your mind processes around 70,000 thoughts a day! That’s almost 5,000 per hour and 73 thoughts per minute, which is more than one each and every second! Maybe you could take a moment to chew over the enormity of those numbers and what they represent in your life? If we are having anything 70,000 times a day it makes sense to make it count!
With 98% of your thoughts being repetitive and not new we find ourselves regurgitating the same beliefs, opinions, knowledge and results, often without challenging them. Where have all these repetitive thoughts got you and, now you come to mention it, how do they make you feel?
If you are feeling bored and tired with yourself, the fastest and most effective way to change the situation is to add more new thoughts and experiences to the mix. Stretch your mind out of that comfortable place you have allowed it to reside and grasp the opportunity to re-evaluate what you are constantly telling yourself!
If we keep feeding our brain the same old stuff that keeps us firmly within our comfort zone we become tired and jaded. When was the last time you put effort into creating new thoughts? The older we get of course the more effort it takes to come up with new experiences and inspiration but we still don’t have to look far, just in a different direction!
Remember, your brain can only have one thought at a time.
You can CHOOSE what that thought is.
Fed up with the clouds and rain? Feeling as though your life is stuck in the grey-ness?
Are you waiting for the weather to cheer up to provide you with the change in your life and the way you are feeling?
The sun always helps our feel good factor but unfortunately it does not change the issues in our lives. Prepare for the best Spring/Summer of your life by deciding what you want and making some small changes NOW!
Remember you have choice, you can choose to accept the parts of your life that are not to your liking or you can choose to change them. Take responsibility for creating the life you want and be surprised at how little effort it takes!
“Leave every person you come into contact with the impression of enhancement.”
Bob Proctor
A simple way to change your world, to attract what you want …. stop looking around for inspiration - look in the mirror, that’s where you will find the greatest influence with the least effort! With a few small alterations to the way you think it is simple to make the difference you’ve been looking for. Take a vow today, be different, stand out and forge your own path – here is lesson one to get you on your way!
Start looking for what people do well, seek out the best in people.
Let them know you notice, with specific feedback.
Be genuine! (Flattery is uninspiring and will not add to your world!)
Give an idea that inspires them.
If you see the best in people, circumstances, situations your entire world will improve.
One of my greatest joys in life is people watching, I happily sit and wile away two or three skinny latte’s immersed in this colourful and unpredictable hobby. I am often shocked by people spending so much time moaning at the tables around me. Griping about the weather, the latest malady, the cost of things, how the train was late…. Now I get that these are things that can prove irksome, they might even wipe the shine off our moment but at what cost to us when we are still talking about the irritation/inconvenience three hours later and living it all over again with another person? What are we creating in our lives if this is the stuff we are focussing on?
Imagine if you had a ‘moan’ box. Something like a piggy bank. Every time you had a moan about something you would immediately secure it in its beautifully designed box and turn your attention and energy towards something positive in your moment.
