Personal re-invention is exciting, finding out who you are from the core and creating a life that perfectly reflects your vision and values brings another dimension to your world. Touch Hypnotherapy is the latest in a string of discoveries to offer the opportunity to break through old walls of fear and trepidation and re-create the life you really want.
Moving on from a relationship, down-sizing, creating a business with purpose, letting go of what no longer makes you happy - can be a time of enthralling transition. Your subconscious mind can assist you in many ways to fulfil your dreams and your potential but do you know how to access this powerful force? New change work holds the capabilities of bringing you into alignment, providing greater vision, momentum and self confidence as you tread the path with newly-ignited passion and knowing.
It is all too easy to get stuck in our old skin, it doesn’t fit us anymore, nor reflect who we truly are . We know our potential is unrealised and our life is passing by but making the shift can feel daunting.
Perhaps you have tried telling yourself not to be so silly, that you should just buckle down and be grateful for all you do have, so get on with it. In theory this sounds reasonable but what is the voice you are so busy drowning out really trying to say? How much longer are you prepared to let the years go by and refuse to listen to your inner knowing?
Having worked for years to advance your career path, create a secure financial platform and become a balanced adult the time has flown and now you are left with a feeling of ‘what next?’. Maybe you have everything you thought you wanted and still there’s a void? You can’t always put your finger on it but nonetheless you are feeling restless and a little dismayed with the life you have worked so hard to create.
Have you reached a point in your life where you thought you would be settled, sorted and satisfied, only to feel that something is missing? Maybe you know your life purpose and passion but are stuck, entrenched in current patterns and habits, held rooted to the spot and fearful of moving forward. As we make the decision to change it is time to seek clarity and straighten out the confusion, providing a strong foundation to translate our dreams into reality.
Busy schedules mean we rarely have time to invest in increasing the quality of our life. Transformational work has come a long way in the past few years and can affect positive change from the outset. Neuro Science has taught us how to create new neurological pathways, re-program our minds, dispersing fear and limiting beliefs, bringing clarity and a true sense of fulfilment.
The old film Seven Year Itch starring Marilyn Monroe may not be so far from the truth according to The Office for National Statistics. With a recent survey showing 19% of divorces occur within four years of marriage, 27% between five and nine years and 13% between fifteen and nineteen years. In the UK the average length of a marriage is around 7 years for women who married between the ages of 25 and 34.
Should we accept our fate or ensure we have the tools to navigate us through choppy relationship waters, deftly avoiding contributing to the Seven Year Itch statistics?
So what happens to the romance, love and lust? It is often over-shadowed by disillusionment rather than searching for an alternative partner. (More than 50 per cent of women cite unreasonable behaviour as a reason for divorce, as do 31 per cent of men).
Couples who have lost the joy in their relationship show a tendency to focus on their partners negative qualities, what they don’t do and what they don’t have. At the beginning we are blinded by love, worst qualities appearing acceptable as we don our rose tinted spectacles and see only the best of our lover. The first two years of a relationship are often bolstered by passionate and frequent sex, exploring each others many facets and benefiting from the powerful cocktail of sex-induced chemicals. When under the influence of this natural and blissful narcotic state we see things differently and not just our partner but the world at large suddenly seems to be more colourful and exciting.
If you are feeling a little jaded and the shine has gone off your relationship, don’t wait for the condition to become terminal, begin by agreeing to focus on only the good in each other for 24 hours. Each time your mind begins to criticise or judge the other person think of one of their best qualities.
Call an amnesty, agreeing to civil conversation and positive words only between you, even for a day will provide the space and platform to move forward from.
Research by John Gottman, one of the U.S.’s best-known relationship researchers, can predict with 94 per cent accuracy which couples will divorce, after watching them talk for a few minutes on a thorny issue. Couples who say five positive things to one negative are likely to survive.
By changing our focus we literally change the way we feel about and perceive our partner, homing in on only their negative words and behaviours is a sure fire recipe for relationship disaster! The destructive cycle can advance alarmingly quickly until resolution is reached. Check for patterns of your past relationships and historical bad times with your current partner. Are you both able to discuss your needs and feelings openly?
Whether you are new to EFT, or a beneficiary, the chances are you would like to know more about how it works. Gary Craig, Founder of EFT, has put together this video which might help answer any questions you may have .
It is worth noting that Gary Craig charges nothing for his web instructional videos as his mission is to speed up and spread the great results EFT can achieve. An inspirational man who has followed his passion, understood his purpose and taught so much to so many!
His website http://www.emofree.com will help you work with EFT on your own.
I personally stumbled on EFT some years ago and eventually got the better of my cynicism, which was running riot at the thought of tapping a few points and witnessing immediate change.
It all seemed to be a bit too good to be true! Once trained, I had intended to slowly integrate EFT with other tried and tested change methods, it soon become one of my most used and consistently effective tools.
