Posted: Mar 29th, 2010In: Life!, Relationships and Sex
Are you:
- Fed up with people treating you badly?
- Tired of being put upon at work?
- Attracting potential partners who seem not to respect you?
- Unclear how to achieve the best for yourself?
- Know you are worth more but can’t quite work out what that is?
- Feeling your behaviours have a will of their own?
Have you ever embarked on a relationship with somebody who treated you in a way you knew was wrong but you allowed it to continue and accept it, in the hope it would change? Are you spending time waiting and hoping for action to demonstrate respect, kindness and love from a significant other? Or maybe you feel deep down that you deserve less than you are hoping for?
Self esteem and self respect are attractive qualities and are built by knowing the behaviours that are acceptable to us and being clear about what we truly deserve. It is important then to impart this information to those around us.
A personal boundary is a line drawn telling others what is acceptable to you., a form of protection and evidence of your self-esteem and self respect. Personal boundaries are imperative when creating good, healthy relationship.
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Posted: Mar 21st, 2010In: Relationships and Sex
Working as a relationship coach I see many people who are single and desperately searching for love in their life.
Using the same strategies and thought patterns, behaving the same way over and over, as they grit their teeth and continue the search whist constistently becoming more cynical, down-hearted and desperate.
If what you have been thinking and doing hasn’t worked, isn’t it time to think again and make some changes? The changes start with our thoughts. What do you think of yourself? How good a partner do you believe you are? How easy is it to love you? Yes, we are starting with the thoughts about you first!
You cannot have a loving relationship with anyone unless you want yourself. If you fail to respect yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself ….why would anyone else?
Now before you roll your eyes up to the ceiling, take a breath, dispel your previous beliefs and hear it again YOU HAVE TO LIKE YOU & ENJOY BEING AROUND YOU, If you don’t enjoy your own company, how can you expect anyone else to? If you fail to respect yourself – why would anyone else?
If you are not too keen on your own company you might find yourself sitting in front of the TV with a good bottle of wine rather more appealing than getting out there and making an effort to interact with the world. Sure, you can tell yourself it will all change once Summer arrives, or once you have a new job, lost some weight, or….. the list is endless! Whatever your ‘reason’ for hibernation think again, it is time to get back to the big bright world that is waiting for you.
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